It's not only what you do, it's what you don't do

It's not only what you do, it's what you don't do

What we get is what we get, but we make the most of it

What we get is what we get, but we make the most of it

Diligence is the mother of good luck

Diligence is the mother of good luck - Benjamin Franklin

It's better to be alone than have bad company

It's better to be alone than in bad company ~ George Washington

Fighters gets no peace

A heart that always fight won't find inner peace.

If you have a heart to fight all the time, you'll never get to rest and find inner peace

If you kill a monster, you'll become a monster

If you kill a monster, you become a monster

Don't seek; when it comes, it comes

In the principles of Zen: Reminds yourself often, don't seek. When it comes, it will comes, so you'll only waste emotional energy seeking for it, making your heart move in the restless motion of emotions, losing your inner peace and tranquillity. That's speaking in the scope of Zen.

Don't let our past determine us

Dont let your past circumstances determine or define who you are now, focus on heading where to want to be. We aren't our old self, we have grown, become wiser and know better. Steer toward that direction you want to head.

You don't need to find yourself if you accept yourself

You don't have to find yourself if you accept yourself (where you are at) wherever you are

Don't let the past experience ruin today's decision.

Don't let your past trauma,  bad experience or failures irrationally influence your current or future decision.

What may be bad in the past may be good today. Just like how hot tea maybe be unpleasant for the summer, it'll be great for the winter. Or coffee is terrible when you were a child but is amazing when you are a mature adult.

Every situation has it's individual circumstances. Don't let the past experience ruin a golden opportunity for today. Don't be like "I have bad experience with (x) so I don't every want to choice is it". Look at every circumstances individually as it is for now.

Be mindful but not attached

Be aware and mindful yet not attached to it nor repulsed to it. Like a distant watch man, with a calm and clear mind.

Being mindful yet attached to these states can be problematic.

Constant seeking leads to restlessness and anxiety

When the heart constantly seeks, it becomes restless. When it is in a constant state of restlessness it'll become anxious. Learn to not seek too much, take a break and rest your heart.

I like to have the mindset of just focus on your day to day life.

Don't be too busy to not see your life and people around you

Sometimes being too busy doesn't give us a chance to step back and watch the world we are living in and for us to see those close people to us suffering. Sometimes all we need is to just take a break from our busy life and watch those people dear to us, and see what we can do to help them and to spend quality time with them.

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Spiritual cultivation is bitter sweet

The process of cultivation is bitter the sense the process of breaking ego is difficult.

It is sweet because afterward the bitter process, you'd feel peaceful, humbled, sincerity and connected to your inner self.

If you can't find your dreams, just keep doing what you like until you find it

If you can't find your dreams, just keep doing what you like until you find it (as long as it's not harmful to yourself and others). In time, you'll move closer to your dreams and may find what you want.

Perhaps your time to realised your dream is not now. For now, just do what you light, as long as it's harmless.

Bitterness can be a vicious cycle, that can be broken with patience, selflessness, wisdom and kindness

It's a vicious circle for some who stays bitter. They get harmed, hurt or abused, so they put up a bitter defensive mode. The get trap with the tired stress of battlefield mode, and don't rest, heal and recover nor earn to be kind and peaceful.

It takes strength and wisdom to be a bigger person, someone who is patient with bitter treatment from others; someone who is humble enough to walk away, let go and move on towards a positive path; someone who is wise enough to know other bitter people are a victim of their own afflictions and it takes kindness to feel sorry for those lost afflicted souls.

A rich man's syndrome: not wanting to face the harsh reality

Having wealth is great if you can use it to share with others and do good with it.

But having wealth can be problematic for others, there's always a catch to everything.

One of the problem of being rich is how it can easily make you lose touch of reality and the hardship of reality. If we let wealth get to us, it can make us spoilt and lose sense of reality. What we want we think we can get. But the truth is that wealth won't save you from relationship break ups, depression, addictions, aging, illness and ultimately death.

The true wealth is the inner peace you get from finding yourself and working on your inner growth. To see reality clear and to connect to your inner nature is the real deal. The rest isn't as important.

Note that we all need money to survive but it's what is important is not letting money control ourselves.

It's OK to dream but don't forget to work for it

It's OK to dream or be inspired, but don't forget to work towards your dreams.

A lot of people can be too focused on the desired results or outcome that they do not put enough focus on the process of working towards it. If you can focus on the process of getting there, you will eventually get there anyways,

This is not to say not to dream. Because dreams and wish are what is need to ignite our spirit to continue going on. But dream is something like a notice board or a poster, where you watch and be inspired at that moment. However, you don't stand and stare at that poster all day.

Conquer Anxiety

Anxiety is tricky to understand because it's a mixed emotion of stress, worries and subtle fear that is built over a long time that sometimes we may not be aware of. There are different types, different severity and triggers and thereby we would have to look case individually and find personalise method of support and treatment.

In terms of thought processes, here is some way of thinking that may cause anxiety:

• Worrying about the future


• Being afraid of not knowing (about the future or general expectation in life)


• Being afraid of not having a plan


• Feeling insecure when we not being under control of our circumstance


• Feeling that things must go my way


• Fear of failing


• Being a perfectionist and having unrealistic expectations


• The all or nothing mentality. Feeling you have to have or achieve certain things otherwise you have nothing or it's a waste of life


• Traumatized by past events such as failures or abuse


• Not knowing when to let go and move on if things are counter productive or a waste of time

Having these way of thinking will make you more likely to experience anxiety. If we can change these way of thinking into something more positive and insightful, it would really help you manage your anxiety:

• No point of worrying about the future. If worrying is counter product then don't worry about it. If you are worried then do what you can to make a positive future.


• Have faith and trust in yourself that things will be fine, that you can face whatever challenges comes to you and so you don't have to worry too much for now. Life doesn't equip us with all the tools, so we have to use what we can at that time.  And even if we fall, that's fine, we just stand back up again.


• Perhaps our bad past experience happens for a reason. The important thing is to experience and learn from it. Those who experience more pain and recover from it have grown up a lot. These battle scars are proof of your strength and how you survived and live on to tell your story. You painful past shows how strong, amazing and wiser you are.


• Learn that we can't control external things all the time. What we must focus on is controlling ourselves and our mind. If you can be a master of your mind, if doesn't what the circumstance is, you will be fine.


• Accept that life doesn't always go your way and the way you expect. Accepting doesn't mean you agree with the outcome, it just means you see the situation as it is for now. Of course ,things can always changes in the future too. Seeing the way things gives us clearer vision.


• Failing is fine. Our circumstances shouldn't define who we are. As long as you stand up and continue to walk and try yourself that's all that matters. Look at all the other achievement you've achieved and not just your failures. Count your blessings in health and the fact that you have your family around.


• Don't be a perfectionist. Perfection is only what we may aim for, but be aware that life is imperfect itself and as long as it meets a satisfactory standard that can be more than enough. Give credit for when it is due. Be proud of what you have accomplished if it meets a realistic expectation. And don't forget, perhaps being happy and peaceful inside is more important than have a perfect external condition.


• For those who hurt you in the past, know that it's only the lost and confuse soul that hurt others. Know that you are on your way or are already grown up inside that you can now look at them like a mature person and see that they are the one who is really lost and perhaps they need more help than you. It may be painful at that time, but now you can look at that as an experience that made you better and not bitter. You can only have sympathy for childish lost soul. Compassionate heart and thinking of others well being is what will heal your heart and pain.


• Learn to not be greedy, hasty or impatient. Learn to take things more slowly and easily. The mind that is calmer, slower and more relax are not likely to be agitated and anxious.


• Just learn to let go. Let go of the fear, the wanting to control externally, stubbornness of how things have to be, how things have to be perfect, the past fear, past shame and bitter... From now on, you are free and you can start a new leaf and be a wiser and mature person

I don't hate you for failing but I love you for trying

"I don't hate you for failing but I love you for trying" - Simpsons

Nothing ventured, nothing gain

Nothing ventured, nothing gain

Those who is obsessed with winning will hurt others

Those who thirst or is obsessed with winning in this worldly life, will risk hurting or putting others down. The tendency to only win and disregard others will rub them the rub way. When winning, win modestly without being arrogant or shoe off about it. The true winners in life are those who master their own mind and ego. Win with grace

Simple way to make money: invest in your skill sets

Lately I've seen those get rich quick scheme, but strangely enough, hardly much people are getting rich or making any money from it, in fact most probably lost the chance of make money whilst they could be working.

After enough thought, if you want to be rich, it is simple... You have to invest time to build on skills that people would like to hire you. Investing in yourself is the best way to make more cash in the future. However, you'll have to work hard now within your budget first.

So here's the trick:
1) Maybe find a part time job if you don't have enough money
2) Improve skills or get qualification. For instance, Study IT coding, Study accounting/pharmacy/medicine/design, just find a job you like and invest time in getting qualified in that field.
3) After x amount if time, start working or make your own business up with those skills.
4) Hire or get advice from experts to promote you business

It's simple as that!

What is sad is seeing people wasting there valuable time on things that probably won't bring them money like making websites they aren't passionate about hoping they'll get rich.... It's nice to dream or experience but after a few years later, you'd probably regret not spending your time wisely.

The "I know it" syndrome

The "I know it" syndrome is when you try to fulfil your ego or protect you insecurities with the attitude of knowing it, well, at least knowing it conceptually.

Knowing that you know it is fine, but to gratify yourself in that emotional satisfying pride or self empowering feeling can actually be a problem. Once that happen, you instantly don't want to listen no more, don't want to learn no more and you're creating a wall or barrier in the expense of your humility, sincerity and patience.

Even if you do know it, it is good practice to listen to it wholeheartedly, humbly and with gratitude, as it shows a sign of good character and virtue. The knowledge or wisdom expounded by others should be respected and valued. Even if you know it in your mind, do you really practice and live it? That's also another question.

Just being yourself is an achievement

To be just yourself in this superficial age is an achievement itself

Work ethics is key to happiness

Man feels better if he punch the bag harder or work harder.

Work ethics makes a man feel better and proud.

It's OK to make a mistake, but avoid the ones you can't recover from

It's OK to make a mistake, but avoid the ones you can't recover from.

Again, a good tip for life and investment ;)

No decision is better than bad decision

"No decision is better than bad decision"

This is a good advice when it comes to life and investment!

Better to be roughly right than precisely wrong

Better to be roughly right than precisely wrong

Take on one project/task at a time to be successful

Trying to take on many projects and task at the same time is going to make you counterproductive and more importantly mentally scattered as well as giving a brain freeze. Then it'll make you feel like you're stuck in a limbo state, not going anywhere, not progressing,  moving on, not achieving amd perhaps not feeling alive... Gradually it might cause you to feel anxious, restless without knowing why and a sense of numbness.

That is why, my friend, make sure you tackle one thing at a time and do it properly. Make a list of things you need to do, attend to what is important first, set a time frame of how long you will spend on a project and know how far you want to achieve within that time...

Within a good game plan, things can become a losing battle. Wasting your time, effort, energy and spirit.

Take each step at a time and one task at a time in a smart tactic

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Your past dreams doesn't mean it's your current dreams

Sadly, dreams may not always be fixed. A childhood dream may not be what you want now. Just as things changes in time, so may our dreams. That being said, just do what you like and want towards your new dreams.

Familiar places feels like home

Being away from a familiar place for a while makes it feel more like a home

How to be a good student of life

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Worrying about time during task is a distraction

You'll get nothing done if you over worry about time all the time. Just make a plan and focus on the task instead of distracting yourself with the worries of time.

Watch the mind dispassionately

To be mindful of internal states. 

Yet not being attached to these states 

Nor being repulse to these states,  

But to just dispassionately watch them.

Thinking of being in the present moment is not living in the present moment

The irony is that thinking about the present moment is not living in the present moment. Why? A person is simply trapped in conscious thoughts is not truly aware of the present moment.

Better to be sincere & not intelligent; than deceitful and intelligence

Better to be sincere & not intelligent; than deceitful and intelligence

Note: wisdom is different from intelligence

I was too focused on winning that I let my heart turn cold

"I was too focused on winning that I let my heart turn cold" ~ Misty

Let's not make this mistake ;)

What is true strength?

True strength does not come through power, being assertive or forceful. True strength comes through patience, clarity of mind and understanding

The scary endless goose chase

One of a scariest thing is being sent in a goose chase, then forgetting being in a goose chase and then mindlessly and endlessly chasing something you're not even sure of...

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Accept the fate you can't change, and change what you can

Accept the fate you can't change, and change what you can - Aaron from Contender

I may lose in life but I'm not going to lose my spirit.

I may lose in life but I'm not going to lose my spirit.

The role of a saint or sage is to maintain the kindness of our hearts

The role of a saint or sage is to maintain the kindness of our hearts.

As the ancient believe, the true heart is intrinsically kind. At birth, it is said a child are born with a good heart, and as they grow up may loses it due to bitter circumstances. However, it is the duty of the saints and sages to support the protection, development and maintance of a kind heart.

The irony is that foolish people may see a kind heart as a weakness but a wise person knows that fundamentally having a kind heart is essential for spiritual and psychological well being. The one who is connected to their heart is ultimately the true winner.

Anger management 2016

• It is important to know why anger can be a burden to our lives.
• It is important to then have the will and intentions to over come anger.
• Understand that anger is natural instinctive reptilian emotional behaviour, and that we have a choice to react with it or not react with it. Option is power, for it leads to better decision and better outcome in life.

Here are ways to manage your anger:
1) Be aware that anger does not serves you good. Be aware that it is not essentially you, and you don't have to react and cling to this negative emotions if you choose not to. This awareness gives you power and control.
2) Be aware and mindful of your internal states, as the very process of being aware/mindful of your anger will naturally cease the anger itself. Then let go of it. Mindfulness is a very powerful tools, which is why people meditate to increase their mindfulness and improve their well being.
3) Be aware that emotions are just impermanent and not essentially our true inner self, so is anger, which comes and goes like a wild storm. If you understand the impermanence of it, it won't control you as much.
4) Be patient with yourself, know that it takes time and practice to master the art of managing your own anger. It may take days, hours, minutes and progressively to seconds, but with practice makes perfect... Well at least closer to perfection.
5) Try to understand the situation in deeper depth instead of just reacting to the anger stimulus. Understand that bad things or other people's negative attitude has a cause and try to sympathise with it. There's generally a reason why people become abusive or lost, perhaps they had a rough childhood and is now unstable. Perhaps bad things happen to teach you a particular lesson this life.
6) Instead of clinging to the state of anger, rise above it, improve your higher thinking and become productive and proactive. See what needs to be done, what can improve the situation and turn this misfortune into something more positive? What lesson can you learn from this misfortune and what is the bright side of it.
7) Understand that anger generally stem from greed and desire. If we can't get what we want, we become anger and frustrated, like a kid who can't have their candy or a drug addict who can't have their drugs. Investigate why you are angry, see what is the cause, if it is due to greed then reducing our selfish greed and desire, which will in turn definitely reduce our anger. Know the difference between need and want, be happy if you got what you need and no need to want more as want is a forever bottomless pit that only brings misery. Be content with what you have, as a sense of fullness will make a person happy.
8) Be less selfish, less self centred and embrace a big heart. The more selfish or self centred we are, the more we take things personally and get hurt when something don't go our way (which is probably most of the time). The stronger the self; the strong the self pain. Likewise the lesser the self, the lesser the self pain. So don't take yourself and your misfortune too seriously, that's the secret to being happier and less angry. Further more, being more responsible and being caring towards other people, will grow our compassionate heart, and a compassionate heart that is too busy wishing the wellbeing of other living beings have no space for anger.

Bitterness can be a vicious cycle, that can be broken with patience, selflessness, wisdom and kindness

It's a vicious circle for some who stays bitter. They get harmed, hurt or abused, so they put up a bitter defensive mode. The get trap with the tired stress of battlefield mode, and don't rest, heal and recover nor earn to be kind and peaceful.

It takes strength and wisdom to be a bigger person, someone who is patient with bitter treatment from others; someone who is humble enough to walk away, let go and move on towards a positive path; someone who is wise enough to know other bitter people are a victim of their own afflictions and it takes kindness to feel sorry for those lost afflicted souls. 

Spiritual path should not reinforce the ego and the self

The right spiritual path do not let the ego grow nor reinforce it. There are no room for narcissitic, self righteous, self centred or conceited attitude to grow.

The mind should not be selfish but selfless. During meditation or recitation the mind should be free from the mark of self and others, and just focus on the meditation subject. Without the mark of self and others, there are no comparing, no competiting or no contending, and so there are no jealousy, no hatred or no act of obstructing others' spiritual training.

Meditate or recite sincerely with one single mind.