Anger management 2016

• It is important to know why anger can be a burden to our lives.
• It is important to then have the will and intentions to over come anger.
• Understand that anger is natural instinctive reptilian emotional behaviour, and that we have a choice to react with it or not react with it. Option is power, for it leads to better decision and better outcome in life.

Here are ways to manage your anger:
1) Be aware that anger does not serves you good. Be aware that it is not essentially you, and you don't have to react and cling to this negative emotions if you choose not to. This awareness gives you power and control.
2) Be aware and mindful of your internal states, as the very process of being aware/mindful of your anger will naturally cease the anger itself. Then let go of it. Mindfulness is a very powerful tools, which is why people meditate to increase their mindfulness and improve their well being.
3) Be aware that emotions are just impermanent and not essentially our true inner self, so is anger, which comes and goes like a wild storm. If you understand the impermanence of it, it won't control you as much.
4) Be patient with yourself, know that it takes time and practice to master the art of managing your own anger. It may take days, hours, minutes and progressively to seconds, but with practice makes perfect... Well at least closer to perfection.
5) Try to understand the situation in deeper depth instead of just reacting to the anger stimulus. Understand that bad things or other people's negative attitude has a cause and try to sympathise with it. There's generally a reason why people become abusive or lost, perhaps they had a rough childhood and is now unstable. Perhaps bad things happen to teach you a particular lesson this life.
6) Instead of clinging to the state of anger, rise above it, improve your higher thinking and become productive and proactive. See what needs to be done, what can improve the situation and turn this misfortune into something more positive? What lesson can you learn from this misfortune and what is the bright side of it.
7) Understand that anger generally stem from greed and desire. If we can't get what we want, we become anger and frustrated, like a kid who can't have their candy or a drug addict who can't have their drugs. Investigate why you are angry, see what is the cause, if it is due to greed then reducing our selfish greed and desire, which will in turn definitely reduce our anger. Know the difference between need and want, be happy if you got what you need and no need to want more as want is a forever bottomless pit that only brings misery. Be content with what you have, as a sense of fullness will make a person happy.
8) Be less selfish, less self centred and embrace a big heart. The more selfish or self centred we are, the more we take things personally and get hurt when something don't go our way (which is probably most of the time). The stronger the self; the strong the self pain. Likewise the lesser the self, the lesser the self pain. So don't take yourself and your misfortune too seriously, that's the secret to being happier and less angry. Further more, being more responsible and being caring towards other people, will grow our compassionate heart, and a compassionate heart that is too busy wishing the wellbeing of other living beings have no space for anger.