sense of sanity

Clarity of mind, calmness, comfortable, self acceptance, peace with my environment, being natural and mindfully going with the flow has been my source of sanity these days.

What we need to learn

A quote on parenting and in fact we also need to parent ourselves to:
" If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to find love in the world."

Be yourself

Quote I heard from some where

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice, and most important, have the courage to follow heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."

Winning may not be winning

You think you are winning because you are acting tough to dominate other people, little did you know you tough hardness is the thing that will eat your own heart and make you lost and confuse

Appreciate our mother

A touching yet true quote about our mothers:

"At 3 yrs "Mummy, I love you". At 10, "Mum whatever". At 16, "My Mum is so annoying". At 18, "I wanna leave this house". At 25,"Mum, you were right". At 30, "I wanna go to Mum's house". At 50, "I don't wanna lose my Mum". At 70, "I would give up EVERYTHING for my Mum to be here with me". You only… have 1 Mum!!!!!!"

Free from social pressure and expectation

I woke one day feeling happier and at peace
because my heart just stop seeking, my mind stop thinking, my though stop trying to be someone/something else like a successful man.... I was free and at peace like a child

Attend your basics

u know, a lot of people who don't get their prioritise right always braek down

instead of focusing on survival, they focus on playing, that they lose the sense of reality

that's why celebrities is most depressed

they are not in touch with human nature and survival

that brings a sense of stability and security, which calms the mind

nothing beats a good hard working honest jones

And morals are just as impoartant as hard work :)

Everyone needs some essence of chan/zen

Over thinking too much, the mind can't be clear, can't be itself, can't function properly and it suffocates. Everyone needs some essence of chan/zen. It's a breather.

Training for the big day

I like the quote "Training for the big day". The reason why I like this quote because it has so much depth behind it. How it means you have a goal, it means you have a direction, you are not lost and not in  idle mode, your put your whole  heart into it trying your best, there's a sense of sincerity, determination, so much elements that comes out from this quote it self.

the cause of corruption in this society

The fruit of a corrupted society has come to bloom; a society that neglects parenting, neglects moral education and even encourage corrupted media have manifested it's colour (not implying to all). The mind is the root, so moral education is needed to truly reform this society. Even adults now need to be re-educate d to be a functional human being in this society...

Element of success

Wish:

• You want to be successfull and what to succeed.

Confidence:

• You can do it! (sooner of later)
• Don't fear it, just do it

Reassurance:

• It is just a small bump of the road of life, it'll be fine.
• Pray and have faith

Mindful :

• Don't think of anything else other than to succeed, and whilst doing it, don't think of success or winning, just do it!

Encouragement

• Think of the reward

Poem: seasons

Spring has hundreds of blossoms,


Autumn has the (fullest) moon,

Summer has cooling breezes,

Winter has snow.

If there are no useless matters on the mind,

...this is life's good season.



- Zen Master Wumen



春有百花秋有月，

夏有凉风冬有雪；

若无闲事挂心头，

便是人间好时节。



- 无门禅师

Panda Philosophy: Don't over think, deal with it once problem comes up!

My dear friend said

"Rob, I think you are over thinkig sometimes. I have a little Panda Philosophy:

'Just go with the flow (hehe),
See what happens,
don't plan things
and when it comes up, deal with it then'"

I like the whole go with the flow, and there is a sense of not thinking too much.
As for don't plan things, as a responsible adult and not a panda, I will have to plan at times, but not excessively to the point that it becomes a thinking process and not acting and being natural.
And of course, deal with it when it comes up, is a wise approach :) Panda philosophy is awesome!

True compassion

I have heard, that compassion is not about attachment to that warm fuzzy feeling.
True compassion is the removal of self, so you are connected to other's in spirit as one

is fashion and make up a good thing?

Fashion and cosmetic is very much an aspect our modern times, especially in developed world. People do use fashion for various reasons, such as expressing one's style or persona one wish to portray, to be in touch with the modern trends because or social pressure or pride shown through fashion social status. I want to explore the psychological impact it is having on others. Here are a few possible implications that arises from fashion:

- Fashion may cause one to be overly self conscious, paranoid and unnatural.
- Fashion may cause one to be self conceited, leading to arrogances
- Fashion with the current trend may leads to comparing with others, hence leading to feeling inferior if out dated or arrogance and dominance if above others. These cause competition, bitterness, hurt and low self esteem to some.
- Fashion may cause the mind to focus on the physical and materialistic aspect, that they lose the sense of the importance of inner self, character, inner virtue and their heart. It may turns a person to be shallow, superficial and lose inner wisdom.

It is understandable that some of us are living in time when we are subjected to the normality of fashion, and that we do need to put thoughts into the type of clothes we wear. But I just want to emphasise the possible psychological changes that fashion may have on us, so that we can avoid letting fashion dominate our lives and mental well being. To know that having a good heart, good character and virtue is much more important than superficial fashion and to prioritise what is important.

On further note, clothes tends to have psychological impact on our minds, emotion and behaviour. For instance, soft loose clothing makes us feel comfortable, relaxed and perhaps lazy, where as tight clothes may make us feel up tight, focus, more alert. Revealing clothes may make us feel exposed. Clothes and even fashion do have some psychological impact, so it is smart to choose a suitable clothing.

Wise knowledge but no character and virtue is shallow as an empty vessel

I have discovered that it is fruitless to know some much wisdom and academic knowledge, but to be lacking of virtue as a good human, such as filial, respecting our teachers and spiritual advisors, brotherhood, loyality etc...


A better person is a good human with virtue and not a well spoken person who can only parrot words from the wise but do not live up to.

Tips for those who are or had been bullied

I am not sure if I am skilled in giving advice about bullies and recovering from the bad experience, but this is what I think:

1. Things happens for a reason, if hardhsip is put on you, it'sa good test to see how you can handle it. If it doesn't kill you, itmakes you stronger.
2. be patient, endure, forgive and let it go. If you don't accept and forgive, it's impossible to let it go. 
3. understand that it is not entirely their fault, it's their ignorance due to bad parenting and environmental factor, and i'm sure they now realised they are wrong and would regret it. Feel sorry for tas the are the true victims of being blind and foolish.
4. Don't place importance on them, why let fools be the centre of your attention? Don't let foolish people ruin it for you, as its not worth it. Save your mind for someone honourable, worthy, kind and good.
5. As you grow up and learn the value of love, respect, kindness, forgiveness, less self centre and peace, you will look back and laugh at those bad times, as it was silly and think it's funny
6. ‎Don't compare, just mind you own business and ignore them. 
7. know that in the future you'll look back and laugh, so don't worry
8. ‎don't be too offensive or too defensive, don't ask for fights and don't invite them with your fear. be calm, normal, firm and confident in yourself. play it cool that the old scool rules =P

Love speaking unconsciously

Being angry and rude won't solve anything positvely,
even though it is natural, you just have to see the bigger pictures.

Sometimes love is a better medicine than preaching (in certain situation)

"90% is unconscious level. With love, the unconscious level can sense it either without conscious realising and respond positively"

Problems with fault finding

sometimes looking at faults blind us from the truth, the whole picture, of all the other good things. It can ruin what is already good. Besides, life is too short to fault find all the time unless necessary.

What is Jeet Kune Do (clearing the confusion)

1) "There is a difference in Jeet Kune Do concept and Bruce's Jeet Kune Do"

2) "Jeet Kune Do is for the streets and MMA is for the cage"

3) "Jeet Kune Do covers the physical, mental and spiritual aspect, where as MMA only covers the physical" (spirituality such as peace, no ego & arrogance, finding yourself
Freestyle or no style means:

- In terms of skills: Be open minded enough to select effective skills from different martial arts and make it your own. It does not mean not learning any style and randomingly train, otherwise you are just doing jibberish (unless it's effective).

- In terms of mind set: A state of mind that freestyle and is adaptable to defeat opponent

5) Jeet Kune Do concept is no style, progressively grow in realistic fighting skill & spirituality.
rlam86 1 second ago
I know what you mean, I've been thinking that for a while and I came up with a summarise sentence:

Dealling with persistant difficult people

With the wisdom and clarity, knowing that the person is not a good person, knowing that there is darkness and problems like hatred, desire to dominate and bully you, threaten you, not good for you... Then what to do?

Well, the first thing to do is to disconnect from them! Simple as that!

You can do this by either in a nice way or a direct frank way. Nice way means just to ignore them and that's it. A frank and direct way means to make it clear that you don't like their ways and therefore leaving them.

Problems happens when a person is trap in this nice and friendly mode, afraid of offending the person and scare of the consequences of that person hating you or whatever reason. The point is that it is better to be hated for who you are and what you stand for and what you think is right (without causing other people problems) instead of being not hated but standing on what you think is the wrong path and lying to yourself. It is better to tell a bad to leave you alone than to be scare and passively follow and be friend them.

Being too friendly to say no can be a disease/problem. Being too friendly to reject corrupted people is a disease/problem. A wise must know when to draw a line and stop the others from leading one astray. Sometimes one may need to be firm and direct, without losing their pure good intention.

A very deep Buddhist quote

‘To study Buddhism is to study yourself,
To study yourself is to forget yourself,
To forget yourself is to perceive yourself as all things.’

My thoughts on it:
Extremely intelligently and wisely said...

When to start a new leaf?

Sometime when appropiate, when you can't solve the problem, start a new leaf.

Materials on "Conceit"

An interesting story of pride comes from Professor Martin Verhoeven who used to be Bhikshu Heng Chau. This is the gist of it. One time, he was battling with pride (as throughout his life, he always wanted to be No.1), so he went the other direction - he became humble. One day, his teacher, Master Hsuan Hua saw what he'd been doing and decided to check him out to see how humble he really was. So Master Hua took Heng Chau's hat, threw it on the ground and started stamping on it. Heng Chau was speechless! "Hey Shifu, that's MY hat!" After that, Master Hsuan Hua said to him something like, "The humility that you are cultivating is not real humility. You are cultivating humility for the sake of showing off to the world and saying, 'Hey, look at me, I am No.1 in humility - no one is more humble than me!' - that's not it either". So the Master probably dusted off his hat, gave it back to him, smiled and said, "Keep practicing ;)"

There is actually a threefold conceit - I am superior is a conceit, I am inferior is a conceit, I am equal to is a conceit (A 6.49) and that if one who has fully penetrated through these has put an end to suffering. So here, I am superior, I am inferior and I am equal to is still self view and is comparing yourself to others. The "I am" is the conceit, the self view.

"Those samanas and brahmins who, relying on the impermanent, unsatisfying and transitory nature of material form, feelings, perceptions, mental formations and consciousness,conceive that: ˜I am better", or ˜I am equal", or ˜I am worse", all these imagine thus through not understanding reality."
~ S 22.49

What sort of reflections can help see through this self view?

"Whatever form... feeling... perception... mental formations ... consciousness there are: past, future or present; internal or external; gross or subtle; inferior or superior; far or near – all should be seen as they really are through true wisdom
thus: ‘This is not mine, I am not this, this is not my self.
~ MV 1.6, S 22.59, Anattalakkha Sutta

http://www.freesangha.com/forums/index.php?topic=399.10;wap2

Don't lose your will power

Once you lose your will, you pretty much lose everything... so keep sharp, keep focus & your eyes on the goal

Anger is one letter short from dAnger

Anger is One letter short from dAnger. I've seen it messed up friendship, broken family, relationship, created wars etc...

It is also a fire and blade into the heart, which attack and hurt you soul. Self affliction it's called.

Psychological warfare in modern days society

We are going through a time when there are no major wars in the world, but a large psychological war fare between us and the social pressure, media brainwash & technology that impose (subtle or assertive) deviant psychological views upon us. Views steming from identity of who we are, what we should be, what we must have, our way of life etc... Complicated psychological disorder arise from such that perhaps professional cannot help. How many more will passively be consume by it? When will we wake up?

The beauty of not knowing (sometimes)

The beauty of not knowing.
Things becomes mysterious
Things becomes wonderful because mystery lingers.
There is no limit or definition to it, where anything goes,
like magic, anything could appear
from glittered radiant unicorn to the dragon ocean palace,
that's what makes it so wonderful and enchanting.
Not knowing is beautiful,
it has no limit and that's what makes it great, vast and boundless, a wonderful feeling.
There is inconceivableness & wonders in not knowing.

Having to know everything in a conceptual way can be an addiction,
insecurities fall upon those who crave knowing the world in concepts and theories.
When trying to comprehend the worldly concepts into the mind, where will it ever end?
When can one truely live?
When can one just be, and let one experience the world
Living and not just thinking and conceptualising?

Of course fundamental conceptual knowledge is vital to ger us through the day, but there are limits, when one should just live and think it's ok that we can't comprehend worldly life with out minds.
But one thing to remember, I heard that we can once comprehend the whole universe through spirituality and not just mere discriminative conceptual conscious brain.
The true understanding of life can only be comprehended via the purity of mind though the "way"

How can we live without a heart?

How can we live without a heart?

Where are you heading? What are you doing?

Damn, don't people stop and think what they are doing nowadays? Drifting along the tides, and not questioning where they're riding into...

Voice of the ancient masters - The way

I heard wisdom echoing from the past;...

Those who only pray may not be enough.
Those who only have doctrine knowledge may not be enough.
Those who only keep the precepts may not been enough.
Those who only keep a pure heart & mind may not be enough.

One needs a pure heart & mind, pure preceptions (action & speech), pure prayer and wisdom to guide them through... and more... The 3 teachings... the 8 noble path... etc...

Voice of the ancient masters - The bright path

One are bought up in this world, become attacked and act densively by being offensive, then their ego grows until they become bitter and arrogant, filled with hatred until they walk the dark destructive path. Only once a wise man appears and speak words of light and truth to bring inner peace and clarity. Through research, these are the words I have heard "collectively":

One needs wisdom, awareness, patience, forgiveness, letting go and love.

One needs "wisdom" to know what is wholesome or not & avoid the dark path.
One needs "awareness" to "avoid" foolish people & the poisons afflictions of the mind.
One needs "patience" to endure the hardship of life and abuse from others.
One needs "forgiveness" to pardon the harm others do to them.
One needs to "let go" of the bitterness others have caused them.
One needs to "love" others in an unattached loving kindness way, as that is the way of the heavens.

That is what I was taught, and that is what helped me through hardship and that is what I believe.

You (reality) VS You (self views)

The contradiction from what you view yourself (label yourself( and how you really feel inside must really confuse you.

Problem with beauty and ugliness

Beauty can be a disease to the mind if arrogance is uncontrolled; unattractiveness can be a disease to the mind if insecurity and un-natural paranoia is uncontrolled. Just be!

See beyong forms and look into the hearts and mind.

Treat your anger with loving kindness to transform it

If you find yourself angry at yourself for being angry (loop effect), then tend to your anger with loving kindness and in time the anger will transform into gentle loving kindness.

It is sort of like using your primary direct thoughts to change your emotions?

Treat you anger with gentleness, love and care, and in time your anger will transform into peace, gentleness, love and care.

Blessings...

Blessing are those who protect and retutn to their innocence, blessings are those who nurture their kindness & compassion, blessings are those who use wisdom to overcome afflictions, blessings are those who have patience and let go of ill will, blessing cherish their family and good friends.

Found your ground?

"Found your ground? (You may need to) find your ground before you venture off.

In life, it can be easy to lose your ground, as you see so many things around you and feel pressured and expected to be someone or have something. Thoughts like "am I good enough? should I be like this or have that?" arise to triggers you to explore.

Changes is good, but the problem of being overly fickle is that it's easy to lose yourself whilst venturing off without grounding yourself. There are some of us who would easily fall for that mistake because some of us would trade ourself to win for our petty egos without realising it or do so intentionally. As time goes by, it would drive a person crazy if they constantly change their mode, state of mind, persona, way of life, lifestyle etc... without having their own ground to stand on. Especially in a very multiculturally diverse place with various trends, social group etc... it is very easy to lose yourself.

The next question is how do you know your ground or natural/stable zone? I don't have a clear answer for that now, but I would assume it is different for everyone as everyone have their own different experiences and character.

I can only guess that it should be something that is natural to you, comfortable, stable and bring that sense of calmness and peace of mind. A sense of home?

But still, don't be rigid and fixed, as time goes by, you will change and so will your ground change, when your old ground for the new.

Words from someone... about work

These are not accurately his words but the ideas are more or less there:

Everyone is going through the same boat, everyone is stressing, you are not the only one.

Don't waste time worrying and stressing about work... use your time to productively do work and make use out of it, because the more you do your work, the more you know, the more confident you will be. Don't let the cycle of worrying, lazy, reluctant to do your work, think of doing it tomorrow (that doesn't happen) which put you in more pressure and stress as the work pile up. Break the cycle and do the work now. "Be focus".

Don't waste your time on that small fraction of work, know how to allocate your time effectively so you can focus on other things.

Everyone is clever-ish, everyone can do it!

Once you taste your achievements, you will like it and have confident and want more. Keep the progress going!

Emotion is natural but should be controlled to some extent

emotion is emotion
every humans has emotions
we shouldn't deny emotions
it's ok to be happy
or sad
it's natural
but we have some control over it
so it won't completely take over

Learn to deal with bitter people

Some people starts off innocent, friendly and kind to others.
As time goes by they start to encounter horrible people with rude manners (due to mental afflictions cause by distressful environment etc...)
So these friendly kind hearted people become defensive and shock
and eventually may even become bitter, cold, stern or even mean to others.
However, the person can learn to escape from this negative response and handle it postively.
Being bitter and mean isn't the only way to deal with being abuse.
One should learn to recognize and be mindful of rude, mean trouble makers
Learn to ignore them and stay away from them
Learn to be patient
Learn to let go of the afflictions and ill will against them
Basically learn to be immune to them and not waste time of them unless it is for the best spiritual benefits.

Just how we learn that certain things can be not wholesome like out of date milk,
We don't need to hate it and be bitter to it like an immature person
wasting our energy, time, emotion and life on such thing.
Just know it, ignore it, avoid it, let it go and be at peace.
Take negative experiences as a way to grow more mature and sensible, to handle things appropiately. That is wisdom.

Do not trade your calmness, peace, dignity, kindness and virtue (light)
for anger, bitterness and revenge (dark).
Grow positively through these experience with mindfulness, patience, forgiveness, letting go and tranquility through these experiences.
Handle the situation positively, growing your virtue and wisdom.

The power of Hope

"Where there is a will, there is a way"

I never really dwell on this phase with much insight before, but there are some truths to it.

"'Where there is will, there is hope'.
The power of will is important,
it is the initiator of changes,
it is the driving force behind changes.

Without will, there is no hope.
Without will, one will not wish to change,
without will, doors of opportunity will be closed,
without will, there be no hope.


May the power of will for wholesomeness be with us,
standing strong and firm,
like the mountain against the wind.
Where there is will, there is hope."

Feed back for space and motion

As it seems, as time goes by, we find more similarities between the western rational philosophical approach, modern science and the eastern spiritual approach. This site nicely blend those ideas together into a rational and well rounded structure. The great ideas are certainly there, although the next missing step is "how" to reach to this unified interconnected experience. I believe that is beyond mere conceptual understanding, but requires a rather more spiritual approach.

Yet still, to grasper the ideas should have a positive effect on person's psych and life hopefully.

http://www.spaceandmotion.com/

Establishing our vehicle

Wherefore, brethren, thus must ye train yourselves : Liberation of the will through love will develop, we will often practice it, we will make it vehicle and base, take our stand upon it, store it up, thoroughly set it going.’ (Buddha)

We are interconnected

One will grow wiser, as one will realise that everything is this world is intereconnected somehow, (call it what you want; Wave Atructure of Matter, spirit, energy, light, chi, tao etc...). As one understand that the world is interconnected, understanding of the moral foundation,'Do unto others as to thyself' exist.

Life is fragile

"Life is fragile,,,body is fragile,,,, in order to exist in this world,,, we need a healthy body... but when the body dies,,, we are ''gone''
in order to exist,, we need our body but where will we go after this,,,after our body dies" ~ Michelle Tay

Instinct, emotions & logic

I use my instinct, emotions and logic interchangably and (preferably) appropiately...

The virtue one

A kind heart, a noble bearing, one walk with virtue and speak eloquently and wisely.
Where ever one go, one's words & aura quiets the troubled hearts and extinguish its afflictions. Clarity & peace one brings, from the mind and hence conduct. A blazing light in the dark confuse world.

Media brainwash?

How many of you think it is cool to look like this or act like that, because it's in the mainstream in media, without thinking the depths of it's purpose? If so, it either means you are brainwashed, mindlessly following the waves without questioning it's purpose or just insecure of thinking for yourselves.

I can't define it but I can refine it.

"I do not know what I am exactly right now, but I know what I am not or what I do not want to be. I cannot define it but I can refine it. Yet, I flow with the present."

I can't define and fixed myself because the human conscious and soul is beyond the comprehension for the mere discriminative conscious of conceptual mind. The depth lies in the unconscious. Refining can draw the conceptual understanding closer, and perhap not always unconsciously closer. That is why I flow with the presence, because although I can't conceptually understand and define myself, I can always natural be myself to some degree when becoming with the moment (considering external and mental factors influences).

Alpha males VS Beta males

I am not exactly sure of the difference between alpha males and beta males. But for now, lets assume alpha males means superior male species in terms of stronger or taller and more attractive physical attributes, stronger dominate assertive mentality and a potential confident leader (which is appealing for most women), where as the beta males are more passive, shy and not a leader type of men (perhaps less appealing to some women).

The question is which is better? Well, I still think I need to draw some clear lines before anwsering this question. We need to consider other factors. another factor to contribute whether they are wholesome or unwholesome, noble men or corrupted men or a mixture.

Whether alpha or beta male, I guess it does not really make a difference if you consider the attributes of their heart.

But generally speaking, I think alpha male may be more corrupted, because to be an alpha male, there must be a level of greed to stand out and to step over other men in order to become more superior. It actually draws the mind into an animalistic state of competition, which corrupts the kind and humble heart. Generally, a better man is not concern of image and reputation, nor is he contentious over worldly affairs. He rather be humble, have humility and let other people go ahead and not show off nor dominate others people for ego satisfaction.

However, their are also beta males who has corrupted intentions like jealousy, hatred, ego issues who wants to step over others but do not have the attributes to do so. Being beta male does not show if you are noble or not.

Now, I am aware that most women are attracted to alpha male, because of their leadship mentality and more stronger and attractive physical attributes. However, the reason why they desire this is because their mind and heart are dwelling into a more animalistic level, where they submit to the stronger species (whether right or wrong) and think of the physical lust attributes.

However, there are virtuous women who do not feel submissive to men's dominate aura, as that is not valuable to them and whereas inner virtue is more appealing to them. In fact, they may find egotistic and dominating attribute disgusting because they understand how egotistic can lead to the potential dark demonic path and find that kindness, peaceful, decent, up right, respectful and humble attributes more appealling. Furthermore, since purer women are less lusty, physical attributes of men do not play a major decision factor, as the heart counts more.

It is understandable that most women mentally prefer to be the idea nice decent girl which is ideal for society, as a lady, however their mind, character, personality and behaviour may speaks another, and falls into a state of manipulation and self denial. It take strength for most women to purify and wise up to some degree to become a proper woman.

Again, you get alot of mixture and types of males and female, so this is only generalising. But all in all, it is the idea how like minded people attracts like minded people. Opposites may attracts in terms of external factors like different hobbies and jobs which because intriguing and new to each other, but in terms of the heart, it is usually like attracts like. A virtuous person will look for virtuous person.

Fighting the social confusion

Bless are those who live with dignity, loyality and morality in the times of social confusion, corrupted media brain wash and mental turbidity.

Those who have made it this far, there is much hope for a brighter path I believe.

Beauty can be for dangerous for some

Beauty can be a curse, a hindrance to humility and the natural non-conceited/non-paranoid mind.
Bless are those who walks with their hearts and not in their imaginary cat walk stage ;)

What does it takes to be a man, to grow up?

One can say, to be a man, one must first break free from the bad influence of the foolish and immature, find a place to settle in peace, learn to live with his basic needs to survive, and then slowly build his life into the direction he want.

Of course, there is more to that but regard this as a stepping stones struture.

The greater unconscious mind

I wanted to articulate a point how great the unconscious mind is, and I happened to find a nice and effective quote from Rach.

"The conscious mind is brilliant, but the unconcious mind is a hell of alot smarter..." - Rach

Many people fail to realised that the unconscious inner mind is powerful, full of wisdom and light as it is behind the veil that not much people know or even can comprehend. They think that because the conscious mind is active, it is impressive. However, mere conceptual conscious mind, even though it is useful to some degree, do not possess the wisdom and light on the unconscious mind, which is true insight wisdom. People get to the unconscious mind through meditation and spiritual practice.

That is why there is a different between conceptual wisdom (ideas) and insight wisdom (inner light).

Hard work pays off

In times of hardship, I have to remind myself the goals and reasons why I am doing this, and that the hardwork pays off.

It is hardwork, but life will be harder without doing the work. It'll pay off soon.

What should we set our standards by?

Should our standard and way of life purely be set on the bases of what is normal in society? What if the norm is corrupted? I do not believe it is wise to just follow the crowd due to insecurities and to feel that you are a part of it. A wise person standard is not base on what is the norm, but what is the true value of it in terms of spiritual values, humanity, morality, virtue and nobility etc...

Our standard should be high amongst those who are virtuous and noble, not just on the bases of being the norm.

I don't care about being with the times, or being cool, hot or not, what is more important is the values we live our life.

My philosophy

Philosophy is as far as your intellect can take you... my philosophy is ultimately no philosophy but just the spirit that stands bare. It's beyond words of any writer or concept of any scholars...

The danger of an aggressive heart

You keep on being aggressive and competively contend others, fighting and arguing with them, trying to beat them up with your words, fist and angry eyes. You become like a mad dog who is lost in confused instable emotional.

With your heart keep on contending and fighting others, your heart will not rest, it disturbs the natural flow, disturbs the peace of heart and brings no true happiness within.

Those who are wise, know the pain of the aggressive heart, and how burn with anger and hatred and not rest in peace. The wise one abandon the turbulent mad aggressive state, and enter into the gentle, yielding and peaceful heart. Only then, can there be peace.

There are those who do not want to fight, but under pressure there ego gets the best of them and then fight for their pride. But the wise one know the danger of ego, and only act if there is benefits and avoid negative path in expense of their petty ego. Subdue the ego, and walk in the path of peace and dignity is the path of the wise one.

The importance of "Respect"

1. Without respect, it will lead to hatred and wars amongst others
2. Without respect, one will grow a disrespectful heart and will soon disrespect themselves, until they hate themselve and self destruct themselves and others. Treating others is a projecting of how you treat your self on a subconscious, therefore treat others how you want to be treated.
3. Without respect, one will not earn the respect of others as nobody wants to respect a person who disrespects them.
4. Without respect, it does not allow the heart to be yield and the heart cannot find light and inner peace.

Therefore, wise one take the meaning of respect to heart so one will not fall into the dark path.

Beware of those who exploit wise knowledge to gain fame and other corrupted intentions

Some people want to learn wise knowledge to sound more smarter, superior and to increase their status to feed their egos. Well, if they do that, ironically it is the opposite of the wise path, as greed for fame, greater status and image is the path of fools. As wise one ultimately focus on purifying their hearts and mind from such filthy intentions of greed, anger, delusion and ego.

Therefore, don't be tricked with people using some wise knowledge to gain good reputation and fame. A true wise one avoid those dangerous pits of worldly gain and focus on their spirital and purity.

Remember, anything that pollutes the heart with greed, anger, hatred, delusion, ego etc... is not wise, as true wise one purifies the heart!

In terms of preacher preaching wisdom, look at both the intentions of the preacher and the contents spoken. As sometimes their intention may be corrupted but wisdom can be gain from their words.

Nevertheless, one should not reject a person only because their intention is in the wrong place, but one should assess whether there is any wisdom to learn within their contents. The preacher may be corrupted, but the content could useful and beneficial. So watch the content as well.

Harsh blunt truth VS gentle wise truth

Sometimes, even though people think it is a good thing to be honest, truth said unwisely at the wrong time or the wrong way can cause a lot of problems and make the situation worse. Although there may be some credit for honesty, the important question is whether it is benevolent or not?

The wise one are mindful of words spoken and the consequence it has, knowing that words can harm or benefit others, even kill or heal. What does it mean to be mindful of words? Perhaps how one speak? The tone of voice? The context? Is it in a rude manner? Is it disrespectful that invoke anger to others? Is it spoken in a peaceful, gentle and respectful manner that brings peace, tranquility and benefits? Wise one utter words that brings benefits and not invoke craving, anger, hatred, delusion, arrogance etc...

There are also some people who use the factual truth or some wise knowledge in order to feel self righteous, greed for powerful and dominating, as a form to fulfill their egos and arrogance. Ironically, wise one walk the path of purity, to remove the self righteous, greed for power, dominating and egotistic attributes.

However, there are time to be honest and blunt if there are positive benefits, but from a pure heart and which is carefully assessed.

Also, there are some who may argue that it is the content that matters and not how it is spoken, so they are not concern with the harsh and rude manner in which they speak. However, the wise one knows the emotional and psychological implication of body language and tone of voice (as it counts 93% of communication), so they are careful with their speak in a generally a thoughtful and gentle manner. Besides, the wise one knows that the mind is likely to learn when it is calm and at peaceful instead of emotionally unstable with angry, anxiety etc... therefore they speak both the content of truth at the same time a calm wholesome energy that brings emotional, psychological and spirtual benefits.

Handling being abuse postively!

Some people are naturally good natured, they do not tend to cause harm to others. However, as time goes by and they experience being harm and abuse by others verbally, mentally, physically etc... they normally react hurt and defensive. Through the defensive act, it may come in the form of being negative or mean to ward people off. Over time, this would lead to negative mind frame and various psychological complication and perhaps health such as ulcer because of anger, frustration and stress.

However, those who are wise, will stop and examine that reacting negative in order to defend oneself may not be good in the long run. They may find alternative ways of dealing with those people who abused them or dealling with their past trauma. They may realised these good advice:

- Ignore them! Recognize they are corrupted and avoid negative people knowing they will cause trouble if you mingle with them. As an ancient quote, avoid foolish people like mad dogs.

- Do not contend and compete with those who are foolish. If you want to compete and contend with foolish people, if means you are foolish and you need to remove the ego. A wise person doesn't waste their time on pointless argument to satisfy petty ego, as life is too short.

- Be patient and calm, let go and do not get involve with foolish abusive people.

- Learn to forgive.

- Know that people who are abusive are because they are lost and had a bad past. Learn to forgive. In fact, learn to care for them if you have a big heart, but yet be smart enough to keep your distance knowing it would lead to problems with corrupted people.

Unflinch eyes tactics

Had a discussion a while ago, and thought this might be useful for some out there.

You push them, they may push you.
A offensive defensive retaliation reaction under pressure.

You run away, they may chase you.
An egotistic reaction to dominate the weak.

Stand firm, unmoved so you do not dominate nor fear.
Stay calm so you do not spark emotions witin them, so they too sense calmness.

Keep your distance & mind you own business so there is no bridge to connect.
Maintain your dignity so the undignified cannot connect.

Patient steps will get you there...

Without patient, it leads to frustration and disappointment when the difficult goal has not been met yet. Times like this, it requires much patient and to taking each step at your own pace, one by one, step by step, one can get there.

Being impatient, it is easier to become disappointed with progress and hence easily give up.

Afflicted with fault finding mind

The mind that focus so much on the faults of others, cannot be liberated.