Panda Philosophy: Don't over think, deal with it once problem comes up!

My dear friend said

"Rob, I think you are over thinkig sometimes. I have a little Panda Philosophy:

'Just go with the flow (hehe),
See what happens,
don't plan things
and when it comes up, deal with it then'"

I like the whole go with the flow, and there is a sense of not thinking too much.
As for don't plan things, as a responsible adult and not a panda, I will have to plan at times, but not excessively to the point that it becomes a thinking process and not acting and being natural.
And of course, deal with it when it comes up, is a wise approach :) Panda philosophy is awesome!

True compassion

I have heard, that compassion is not about attachment to that warm fuzzy feeling.
True compassion is the removal of self, so you are connected to other's in spirit as one

is fashion and make up a good thing?

Fashion and cosmetic is very much an aspect our modern times, especially in developed world. People do use fashion for various reasons, such as expressing one's style or persona one wish to portray, to be in touch with the modern trends because or social pressure or pride shown through fashion social status. I want to explore the psychological impact it is having on others. Here are a few possible implications that arises from fashion:

- Fashion may cause one to be overly self conscious, paranoid and unnatural.
- Fashion may cause one to be self conceited, leading to arrogances
- Fashion with the current trend may leads to comparing with others, hence leading to feeling inferior if out dated or arrogance and dominance if above others. These cause competition, bitterness, hurt and low self esteem to some.
- Fashion may cause the mind to focus on the physical and materialistic aspect, that they lose the sense of the importance of inner self, character, inner virtue and their heart. It may turns a person to be shallow, superficial and lose inner wisdom.

It is understandable that some of us are living in time when we are subjected to the normality of fashion, and that we do need to put thoughts into the type of clothes we wear. But I just want to emphasise the possible psychological changes that fashion may have on us, so that we can avoid letting fashion dominate our lives and mental well being. To know that having a good heart, good character and virtue is much more important than superficial fashion and to prioritise what is important.

On further note, clothes tends to have psychological impact on our minds, emotion and behaviour. For instance, soft loose clothing makes us feel comfortable, relaxed and perhaps lazy, where as tight clothes may make us feel up tight, focus, more alert. Revealing clothes may make us feel exposed. Clothes and even fashion do have some psychological impact, so it is smart to choose a suitable clothing.

Wise knowledge but no character and virtue is shallow as an empty vessel

I have discovered that it is fruitless to know some much wisdom and academic knowledge, but to be lacking of virtue as a good human, such as filial, respecting our teachers and spiritual advisors, brotherhood, loyality etc...


A better person is a good human with virtue and not a well spoken person who can only parrot words from the wise but do not live up to.

Tips for those who are or had been bullied

I am not sure if I am skilled in giving advice about bullies and recovering from the bad experience, but this is what I think:

1. Things happens for a reason, if hardhsip is put on you, it'sa good test to see how you can handle it. If it doesn't kill you, itmakes you stronger.
2. be patient, endure, forgive and let it go. If you don't accept and forgive, it's impossible to let it go. 
3. understand that it is not entirely their fault, it's their ignorance due to bad parenting and environmental factor, and i'm sure they now realised they are wrong and would regret it. Feel sorry for tas the are the true victims of being blind and foolish.
4. Don't place importance on them, why let fools be the centre of your attention? Don't let foolish people ruin it for you, as its not worth it. Save your mind for someone honourable, worthy, kind and good.
5. As you grow up and learn the value of love, respect, kindness, forgiveness, less self centre and peace, you will look back and laugh at those bad times, as it was silly and think it's funny
6. ‎Don't compare, just mind you own business and ignore them. 
7. know that in the future you'll look back and laugh, so don't worry
8. ‎don't be too offensive or too defensive, don't ask for fights and don't invite them with your fear. be calm, normal, firm and confident in yourself. play it cool that the old scool rules =P