What should we set our standards by?

Should our standard and way of life purely be set on the bases of what is normal in society? What if the norm is corrupted? I do not believe it is wise to just follow the crowd due to insecurities and to feel that you are a part of it. A wise person standard is not base on what is the norm, but what is the true value of it in terms of spiritual values, humanity, morality, virtue and nobility etc...

Our standard should be high amongst those who are virtuous and noble, not just on the bases of being the norm.

I don't care about being with the times, or being cool, hot or not, what is more important is the values we live our life.

My philosophy

Philosophy is as far as your intellect can take you... my philosophy is ultimately no philosophy but just the spirit that stands bare. It's beyond words of any writer or concept of any scholars...

The danger of an aggressive heart

You keep on being aggressive and competively contend others, fighting and arguing with them, trying to beat them up with your words, fist and angry eyes. You become like a mad dog who is lost in confused instable emotional.

With your heart keep on contending and fighting others, your heart will not rest, it disturbs the natural flow, disturbs the peace of heart and brings no true happiness within.

Those who are wise, know the pain of the aggressive heart, and how burn with anger and hatred and not rest in peace. The wise one abandon the turbulent mad aggressive state, and enter into the gentle, yielding and peaceful heart. Only then, can there be peace.

There are those who do not want to fight, but under pressure there ego gets the best of them and then fight for their pride. But the wise one know the danger of ego, and only act if there is benefits and avoid negative path in expense of their petty ego. Subdue the ego, and walk in the path of peace and dignity is the path of the wise one.

The importance of "Respect"

1. Without respect, it will lead to hatred and wars amongst others
2. Without respect, one will grow a disrespectful heart and will soon disrespect themselves, until they hate themselve and self destruct themselves and others. Treating others is a projecting of how you treat your self on a subconscious, therefore treat others how you want to be treated.
3. Without respect, one will not earn the respect of others as nobody wants to respect a person who disrespects them.
4. Without respect, it does not allow the heart to be yield and the heart cannot find light and inner peace.

Therefore, wise one take the meaning of respect to heart so one will not fall into the dark path.

Beware of those who exploit wise knowledge to gain fame and other corrupted intentions

Some people want to learn wise knowledge to sound more smarter, superior and to increase their status to feed their egos. Well, if they do that, ironically it is the opposite of the wise path, as greed for fame, greater status and image is the path of fools. As wise one ultimately focus on purifying their hearts and mind from such filthy intentions of greed, anger, delusion and ego.

Therefore, don't be tricked with people using some wise knowledge to gain good reputation and fame. A true wise one avoid those dangerous pits of worldly gain and focus on their spirital and purity.

Remember, anything that pollutes the heart with greed, anger, hatred, delusion, ego etc... is not wise, as true wise one purifies the heart!

In terms of preacher preaching wisdom, look at both the intentions of the preacher and the contents spoken. As sometimes their intention may be corrupted but wisdom can be gain from their words.

Nevertheless, one should not reject a person only because their intention is in the wrong place, but one should assess whether there is any wisdom to learn within their contents. The preacher may be corrupted, but the content could useful and beneficial. So watch the content as well.

Harsh blunt truth VS gentle wise truth

Sometimes, even though people think it is a good thing to be honest, truth said unwisely at the wrong time or the wrong way can cause a lot of problems and make the situation worse. Although there may be some credit for honesty, the important question is whether it is benevolent or not?

The wise one are mindful of words spoken and the consequence it has, knowing that words can harm or benefit others, even kill or heal. What does it mean to be mindful of words? Perhaps how one speak? The tone of voice? The context? Is it in a rude manner? Is it disrespectful that invoke anger to others? Is it spoken in a peaceful, gentle and respectful manner that brings peace, tranquility and benefits? Wise one utter words that brings benefits and not invoke craving, anger, hatred, delusion, arrogance etc...

There are also some people who use the factual truth or some wise knowledge in order to feel self righteous, greed for powerful and dominating, as a form to fulfill their egos and arrogance. Ironically, wise one walk the path of purity, to remove the self righteous, greed for power, dominating and egotistic attributes.

However, there are time to be honest and blunt if there are positive benefits, but from a pure heart and which is carefully assessed.

Also, there are some who may argue that it is the content that matters and not how it is spoken, so they are not concern with the harsh and rude manner in which they speak. However, the wise one knows the emotional and psychological implication of body language and tone of voice (as it counts 93% of communication), so they are careful with their speak in a generally a thoughtful and gentle manner. Besides, the wise one knows that the mind is likely to learn when it is calm and at peaceful instead of emotionally unstable with angry, anxiety etc... therefore they speak both the content of truth at the same time a calm wholesome energy that brings emotional, psychological and spirtual benefits.

Handling being abuse postively!

Some people are naturally good natured, they do not tend to cause harm to others. However, as time goes by and they experience being harm and abuse by others verbally, mentally, physically etc... they normally react hurt and defensive. Through the defensive act, it may come in the form of being negative or mean to ward people off. Over time, this would lead to negative mind frame and various psychological complication and perhaps health such as ulcer because of anger, frustration and stress.

However, those who are wise, will stop and examine that reacting negative in order to defend oneself may not be good in the long run. They may find alternative ways of dealing with those people who abused them or dealling with their past trauma. They may realised these good advice:

- Ignore them! Recognize they are corrupted and avoid negative people knowing they will cause trouble if you mingle with them. As an ancient quote, avoid foolish people like mad dogs.

- Do not contend and compete with those who are foolish. If you want to compete and contend with foolish people, if means you are foolish and you need to remove the ego. A wise person doesn't waste their time on pointless argument to satisfy petty ego, as life is too short.

- Be patient and calm, let go and do not get involve with foolish abusive people.

- Learn to forgive.

- Know that people who are abusive are because they are lost and had a bad past. Learn to forgive. In fact, learn to care for them if you have a big heart, but yet be smart enough to keep your distance knowing it would lead to problems with corrupted people.

Unflinch eyes tactics

Had a discussion a while ago, and thought this might be useful for some out there.

You push them, they may push you.
A offensive defensive retaliation reaction under pressure.

You run away, they may chase you.
An egotistic reaction to dominate the weak.

Stand firm, unmoved so you do not dominate nor fear.
Stay calm so you do not spark emotions witin them, so they too sense calmness.

Keep your distance & mind you own business so there is no bridge to connect.
Maintain your dignity so the undignified cannot connect.

Patient steps will get you there...

Without patient, it leads to frustration and disappointment when the difficult goal has not been met yet. Times like this, it requires much patient and to taking each step at your own pace, one by one, step by step, one can get there.

Being impatient, it is easier to become disappointed with progress and hence easily give up.

Afflicted with fault finding mind

The mind that focus so much on the faults of others, cannot be liberated.