Winning can actually be losing

When you think you are winning by beating others, you are actually losing. You lost something far more important, your grace.

How to over come the sense of being a victim

It is true that some of us are victims of being abused before by others in one way or another. But it doesn't have to define who we are or continue being an emotional baggage for us. Here are some tips to over come this:

1. Understand that the past don't to define us.

2. Understand that what happened to us including bad past experience or success is not only due to us, it is in fact a huge complex change of causes and conditions. Don't just solely blame or praise yourself.

3. You can't control circumstances and events that happens to you but you can change how you approach and handle it.

4. Sometimes in life, it doesn't matter about how great or miserable your life is, but what count is how you handle it.

5. Upon misfortune, you can lie down and feel defeated or you can use this opportunity to grow, to become wiser to learn from any mistakes and practice the art of patience and letting go. It can make you or break you. It can make you bitter or make you better. It is completely how you want to approach it. That is the difference between those who succeed and those who fails.

6. Time is a healer. Nothing is impermanence. As the storm pass, so will this pain and misery.

7. You are not your emotions. A lot of people are

8. Learn not to cling or be attached, especially to your bad experience. When you can deutsch and slowly let go of these negative emotions and thoughts.

9. You can find yourself when you find your inner heart, which arises when their the waves turn into quiet spring and the dust of afflictions is wiped clear.

10. Gratitude is so important. You must be grateful with what you got, otherwise you will fall endlessly in the bottomless pitch of the sense of lacking, greed or fear. Just look at all the good things you have and count your blessings. If you always look down you will miss out all the beautiful stars and wonder of life.