Growth through pain

I guess sometimes depression makes a person grow if they can handle it properly.

Without being attack, a person won't know how to defend themselves.
Without being deceived, a person may not know how to become wiser.
Without hardship a person would not be able to test their ability.
Without suffering, a person won't seek way how to overcome it.

... That is, only if one know how to handle it the right way.

Who am I? You can't find yourself but you can be yourself.

Who am I? I don't think I can define myself since the mind, body and spirit is a complicated matter which can't be grasper conceptually. But I suppose I can just be myself, but by doing what I feel in a controlled, rational and intelligent way. Be yourself but don't cross harmful limits. But mind you, how you feel changes so is there really a fixed self?

You can't find yourself but you can be yourself!

Don't like things just because it's unique-different

Some people look for something unique-different-rare-special-weird things to feel a part of something special and different, as form of feeding their egos.

The down point of this, is that the person may be so focus on liking unique-different-special-weird that they become blind whether it is wholesome or unwholesome. A smart person would prioritize the true value of wholesomeness and true bliss and happiness over anything that is just because it is unique-different-special-rare-weird. Just like how rare it is to find a thug with a gun in the middle of the street, you should be getting out of there because it's nothing good.

Don't trade clarity, appreciation of simplicity and wholesomeness for the sake of just unique-different=rare-special-weird. Only fools do that. Keep the mind clear and see the true value of things as it is. That is smart.

Is it worth proving a point?

Sometimes I like to feel that I am strong by proving that I can face hardship and challenges, I suppose it also partly feed my ego. But then again, there are limits, and I realised it is important to know the consequences of proving a point, because what you challenge may do more harm/problems in the long run than benefits. A sign of reckless self destructive behaviour. Just like how proving a stupid point with abusive or physical abuse can risk your life. or do a last minute revision in exams to prove you are smart may risk getting low grades and ruining your whole life career.

What you try to prove should be assessed, is it worth the risk of ruining your life or health? It is important to say no and not let ego and pride take over, one must swallow pride to make the best decision. Assess the cause of your challenge and if it is pointless, than use that energy to do other important and meaningful things in your life. That is a part of growing up.

But of course if there is something worth challenging through careful decision, then go for it.

*The song "The drugs don't work" - by Verve is playing right now!*

Why close yourself from lights?

You think you are special, so you close yourself from others... until you are alone... and you think back and wonder why did you let all those good people pass by? Those people who walk with morality, virtue and a good heart, are like beacon of lights for us.

True teachers teach us how to help ourself grow

A good teacher, teaches you how to teach yourself.
A good provider, teaches your how to grow your own crops to sustain yourself.
A good psychologist teaches you to become mentally and emotionally more independent.

A part of growing is to make your more self efficient, self sustainable, more self reliable, more independent, more emotionally more independent in the pillar of lights, wiser etc...

However, it is also equally important to know when to ask for help, swallow your pride to ask for help if need be, we are all working together after all.

Growth occurs when one goes beyond one's limit

"Growth occurs when one goes beyond one's limits" ~ Itachi

Environment influence our mind

I'm not sure if we can search for our self, but we can be ourself... Be ourself in a peaceful way.

The mind changes according to environment. try to have something positive in your life to fall back on with positive environment to neutralize the negatively worldly life. For me, it happens to be temples and nature that keeps me positive.

Our actions, speech, morality, environment influence etc... our character.